Sex chat websites like Cam4 and Chaturbate operate like social media. Each user has a page, and when broadcasting, it displays their video and a chat box. The first post lists terms of refusal—how a broadcaster chooses NOT to play. “No cam, no chat” means a broadcaster only engages with other broadcasters. Further “no face, no chat” warns those showing anonymous body parts. These refusals bring users together selectively. Freely. Whereas a sex worker builds community through tokens, a digital currency linked to interactive dildos, chat bots, and Amazon wish lists. “No pay, no play” is less a personal refusal than a perpetuation of the platform as gaming. To win at masturbation.
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm will explore the poetics of “no” and the art of failure.